I LOVE U :( ... I HATE U :) ...

LOVE and HATE are two faces of same coin.

Its always pain to say I love U :( to some one. The moment U say some one " I LOVE U ". They start questioning Why , From When , Why me ;) What did U like in me !!.
And if U really love some one , U will not have answer for those questions.
That's why people afraid to utter those 3 words , because we need to answer those questions.
I just thought why we afraid to say I LOVE U . The moment U fallen in love , u start thinking about the loved once. This point where pain starts, first time U stop thinking about your self.
And also its destroys your ego ,so that's why it pains lots. And because the transformation is going to be from the self towards a state of no-self, agony is very deep.
This are emotional part the LOVE game. Now come to practicality of why afraid of saying I LOVE U :)

First reason may be U will get the slap !!! How funny if say I LOVE U , U will get slap. There is also fear of rejection.
Second reason is LOVE is the most redefined and polluted word. People always say whom we have to love , we created boundary our self to Love like caste , age, rich-poor lot more.
So we have to love those whom society accepts. This makes people afraid to say I LOVE U . Should think 100 times before breaking the rules. Should have guts to face the society and also failure if happens.
And last reason which i know the fear of the unknown, the insecurity of the unknown, the unpredictability of the unknown, makes one very much frightened. We start whether loved one will adjust with me , or will they too love me . Like all questions will come.


Now fun part is saying I HATE U :) . I can go to any person and say I HATE U :) . They may say they too hate us ;) .
No one will teach us whom we should hate . Even society also not defined to whom to hate. We are free hate any one !!!
We can hate any one for any silly reasons. HATE is purest word, which not polluted by any definition. So it is easy to say I HATE U :)


So think about , which one U want to say now !!

Today Is Last Day :)

Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today.

I thought about writing this post , after i seen the video of dying professor Randy Pausch who gave the lecture on "How to Live Your Childhood Dreams"
( http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-5700431505846055184 ) .

I don't have any personal experience about death :) , even not encounter also. I am not writing any philosophical thing on death here. If U are interested in philosophy read Kathopanishad which is an ancient Indian scripture that addresses the reality of death and the dimensions beyond death. I am writing just positive sides of Death !!

We talk about lot about live but not about die !! . Even we forgotten that some day we are going to die. No one wants to die, even if they wants to go heaven !! .

"DEATH" is ultimate truth on this earth, the destination which we all share. "DEATH" is highest level of metrics to show how much like some thing. "I DIE FOR U" is more stronger than "I LOVE U" ;) We die everyday for money,work,prestige,religion,caste,language and this list grows. Due to this we are not thinking about our real death !!

Below are summary of some articles which talks about "Death in inspiring way".


Death and life are two polarities of the same energy, of the same phenomenon. Death is not the end of life; in fact, it is a completion of one life, the crescendo of one life, the climax, the finale. And once you know your life and its process, then you understand what death is. -- OSHO

The below is part of Steve Jobs (CEO ,Apple Computers) , talk given to students on their graduation day.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.


Good inspiration to all of us :) As i told in the beginning of post "live as if you'll die today" . Then U can know worth of the LIFE .Die each day so the U will Live up ever day.


And finally , some time back i got one SMS from friend which was like this " What U will do if it is the last day of me" !! And needed to reply this msg . Whats ur answer to this SMS ? .

Kannada,Kannadiga and Karnataka

It is some what continuation of my previous post.

One should respect his motherland, his culture and his mother tongue because they are givers of happiness -- Rig Veda

Those who never respect there mother land , mother tongue will not be respected by others also. This may be the main reason why we always neglected , disrespect by other people. I don't want to write same thing blaming our self , which all we doing from past " Naavirode Hinge" .

I want to write some steps which I am fallowing, which made me proud and gave respect . This posting may not change everything , but hoping it will make at lest some little difference .

1) We should have respect on our place and language, then automatically we will be respected.

2) We will get respect when we know our self better, learn about our land , language . Read books , know more about our place ,language. Knowledge is power.

3) Another thing we lack information about our self , which is making us feel inferior .

4) Speak Kannada with Kannada people. It will bring us closer. And also it will make some identity and unity.

5) Speak Kannada with business representatives,in shopping mall, in banks . Don't be shy they need business not we . Which indirectly makes them to recruit the Kannada knowing people.

Identify yourself proudly ... I may get first comment on this post saying why U written this post in English then :) .
Please recognize spirit behind this post !!

And also add if you have any steps which make us all feel proud...